Scar Tissue

Episode 7: When success isn’t enough with Gary Kadi

Episode Summary

In this episode of Scar Tissue, I sit down with my dear friend and client, Gary Kadi, a brilliant entrepreneur who built and sold companies, then chose to pour his energy into helping couples and founders create real connections while they build their empires. We talk about the trap of “shoulds,” how external validation keeps us numb, and why the order of being, doing, and having changes everything. Gary opens up about sobriety, marriage, parenting through an autism diagnosis, and the exact levers that helped him release old identities and lead from a new ground of being.

Episode Notes

This conversation is a masterclass in reshaping your inner operating system so health, wealth, and connection become your lifestyle, not another to-do. Gary shares how childhood coping patterns fueled success and burnout, why you can never have your way into being, and the simple reframes that brought his family closer than ever. We walk through his three pillars, the mentors who changed his life, and the prompt that can unlock your deepest relationship patterns in minutes. If you have ever felt stuck between ambition and intimacy, this is your invitation to build both.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to stop “shoulding” on yourself and shift from external validation to inner alignment
• The being, doing, having sequence and why most entrepreneurs run it backward
• Health as a lifestyle: metabolism reset, sleep quality, and energy that powers your business
• Wealth that runs on rails: what a virtual family office is and how it simplifies decisions
• Connection beyond gifts and getaways: practices that create safety, intimacy, and fun
• A two-question writing exercise that reveals your core relationship blueprint
• Why "what" is in the way is the way, and how to use resistance as your teacher

Connect with Gary Kadi:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gary.kadi/

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